Friends and Pasta sauce

I twirled al dente fettucine on the fine silverware and my tongue had its own kind of orgasm as the flavour danced about in my mouth.

I had one woman to thank for this incredible meal.

I had stumbled across a vibrant blog on social media during a trip to one of my favourite cities. On her blog she recommends some fantastic restaurants and cafes to visit while in town as well some stylish posts on fashion. I was hooked. I could not get enough of this blonde bombshell with huge knowledge on the food and wine biz.

If only I could be as cool as her! I could pretend all I wanted, but this girl had serious sass! I messaged her and before too long we had arranged to meet the next time I was in town. But, in the meantime…

Tonight, my  sister rang me a little disheartened. On a spiritual journey and embracing yoga and fitness, she has delved into this phase of her life whole heartedly. Even her young children are embracing this new way of life. It’s truly inspirational. Anyhow, tonight, as I applied my makeup ready to paint the town red in my heels, I had her on loud speaker as I swept shimmer across my eyelids.

‘My post was reported,’ she said sadly. I could hear her pouring a cup of tea. ‘The post wasn’t of any bad nature at all. It was just me in a sports top doing yoga,’ she sniffled. Had she been crying? Here was this beautiful young woman enriching her life and some trolls out there had the audacity to try and bring her down. An empath, this negativity effected her. Sweeping highlighter across my cheekbones and swigging my extra shot coffee, I tried to cheer her up with my best-I’ve-got-your-back-big sister voice.

‘Do NOT let anyone stop you from inspiring others!’ I lectured, reaching for the lipstick. ‘If you stop posting just because of one bully, you never know how many others are missing out! Please, don’t let this stop you! You’re doing amazing and so many of your followers look up to you!’

‘Yeah,’ she sighed. ‘I’m tired. I’m going to go to bed.’

As a protective older sibling I naturally felt upset.

Before I headed out the door, I had some time to spare and opened my own messages. I had a message from one of my favourite bloggers. The sassy Queen from my favourite city! My heart grew like a flower as I read her beautiful words. This stunning woman who spent her days ice skating with friends and eating at the coolest places, shared with me another side to her- a secret blog that fed her soul. Death had touched her life dramatically and this outlet helped her heal and spread the word to others how you can come out at the other side of grief. A death maiden, I was dazzled and spent the next hour reading some of the most beautiful blog posts I’ve ever read. I was humbled this blogger felt she could share this with me but it also taught me something else.

IMG_6816 You just never know the suffering someone can be going through behind that shining smile. The clothes may be stylish, the friends may be abundant, but never think for one minute that they do not have another side. A spiritual side. A painful journey perhaps. It also reminded me that you should never stop reaching out to others with your passion, even if haters try and tear you down. My sister had only ever intended to spread love and inspiration, not to offend. She has a killer body and whoever reported her is clearly just jealous. And, then there are times I am exhausted and I would prefer to sleep than take that 2AM death call, share experiences on my blog or continue writing my book. But, I’m so glad I never stopped because this city blogger reached out to me! Little old me! I really cannot wait to meet with her over a huge glass of wine and pasta! But now, not only will we be discussing the city hot spots, we can discuss the spiritual world. Death. Life. The GUTS of this universe. This woman truly is remarkable and an inspiration. You really need to follow her.

I heard this quote somewhere, cheesy but it stuck with me. It went along the lines of ‘Don’t ever frown because you never know who could be falling in love with your smile.’

Something like that.

Don’t ever stop doing what you’re doing because you never know who you may be helping!

Keep sharing your light, love and passions and you and others will prosper!


You can follow Jessie’s yoga journey @jesskm1012

Follow Deb’s amazing spirit journey and her delightful chic city blog


Keep Shining baby girl xo

2 thoughts on “Friends and Pasta sauce

  1. I’m glad we have connected over Instagram. How amazing social media can be so fantastic and positive and then, like Jess, the haters can come out and try and bring you down. The best advice I can give to anyone who has been hated online is to ignore …. it’s not worth spending your life being affected by the negative energy of the poor miserable souls who have nothing better to do than spread their hate.

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